Why is it that so many people look towards Spirituality for some sort of salvation? Is it a rejection of our modern way of living, which seems to keep us in a state of discontentment? Are we collectively looking for something deeper in meaning, “surely life is about more than this”, we may ask ourselves.
Reasons for wanting to be Spiritual
People come to spirituality for many different reasons, a major negative life event, such as the loss of someone dear, a sense of helplessness and uncertainty about the future, particularly with an increasing dependence on technology and its accelerating advancement. We may be tired of the painful, negative thoughts that seem to follow us around in our daily lives. The fact that as we get older we seem to suffer more and more loss, the loss of family and friends, the loss of physical and mental abilities, the growing number of ailments we have to endure as we head towards our own inevitable demise.
Whatever the reason for seeking spirituality, there seems some confusion as to how it can actually help us live a better existence. To find the fulfilment and joy that we have been seeking our whole lives.
This guide is designed to help you understand the underlying principles about spirituality and unlock some of the secrets to why life is not meeting your expectations and preferences, and why your current path is unlikely to do so.
You may ask how I have come about such a realisation. Well, it has come from studying some of the great spiritual thought leaders, such as Eckhart Tolle, and Alan Watts and then putting their teachings into practice in my own life. I now find great joy in the simplest of things, I love life to the full. I live the life I want and on my terms. It doesn’t mean there aren’t challenges but I deal with them from a different perspective, from a more enlightened viewpoint than I had done previously, and you can too. I deal with spirituality here to help improve quality of life, I don’t go into detail about the after-life, and reincarnation, simply because there is so much conflicted hypotheses and no way of knowing what is possible and what isn’t for sure, so what is the point in speculating. I am more concerned with improving the quality of the life we have now.
This guide is built on the simple principle that, the Ego (identification with THOUGHT, invested with a sense of self) is the major reason why many people are NOT living the life they want, and spirituality is about making THOUGHT a tool to be used for our benefit, rather than allowing it to play the role of master and controlling us. Being spiritual is about realising your TRUE SELF and releasing it from identification with your false Egocentric self.
The outward movement and return home
The journey of life has two distinct phases. The first is an outward movement of growth and expansion, during which we not only increase in size, but intelligence, and ability. Our circle of influence also grows as we move from childhood into adulthood. We earn more financially, as we gain in experience and knowledge.
The second phase is the return home. This is the phase when we generally feel more loss, the loss of love ones, family and friends, as they pass on. The loss of our physical prowess, and our mental sharpness. Our circle of influence also reduces in line with our mental and physical decline. At the end of this phase we return to where we first came from, just a short time ago, through death.
Although this phase seems to be a very depressing part of life, it can often be where we truly find ourselves and find the most peace in our lives, as long as we allow ourselves to become more spiritually centred. In fact many ancient eastern civilisations and philosophers believed that life was designed for this very purpose, to find our spiritual selves through the weakening and disillusion of form (body and mind).
The prison in your head: the mind, the Ego
We spend a great portion of our lives inside our minds. We are subjected to the minds incessant thinking. We appear to have little choice about what we think about, thinking kind of happens to us, in a similar fashion to how breathing just happens, without us having much input into the process.
Compulsive thinking can consume more of our attention than the real world around us. Try to catch yourself next time you are deep in thought, and not taking notice of what is going on around you. This is where problems start. If we pay too much attention to our mind’s inner dialogue, which can often be negative in nature, this negativity, begins to manifest into emotion, which can adversely impact the body, physically.
As Jim Carey so succinctly puts it, “It is important to know the difference between a dog that is going to eat you in your mind and a dog that is going to eat you in real life”. Unfortunately your body isn’t able to differentiate between thought and real life and the psychological stress impacts your physiology and can be very damaging to your health. Particularly because such negative thoughts can be held over long periods of time. Your body isn’t designed to deal with chronic stress for prolonged periods, but rather it was intended to deal with short but intense potential life threatening situations, like our ancestors’ being chased by a sabre toothed tiger, triggering our flight or fight response.
When focused inside our head, we become a slave to our thoughts. Our mind becomes our master rather than a tool, designed to help us. The mind is a useful tool to navigate through life. I mean, where would we be without critical thinking, reasoning, decision making capabilities and the ability to solve problems, these abilities help us navigate our world. Unfortunately there is another side to the mind, commonly referred to as the “Ego”.
The Ego, and its identification with Attachments
The Ego is an all consuming state of mind that identifies with THOUGHT.
In that we mistakenly take THOUGHT to be who we are, that is, we invest it with our sense of self.
Particularly rigid thought patterns and habits, that we commonly refer to as BELIEFS and VALUES.
The problem with this is that thought grossly reduces the world around us into a mind
constructed abstraction so we can better understand and navigate it, and by identifying
with thought, we mistakenly believe our thoughts about the world to be the world, rather than just thoughts about the world.
Life from this perspective becomes a time bound experience, of past and future, rather than a
timeless experience, in the moment it unfolds.
The Ego colours our perception of the world and of life itself, and not for the better. Thoughts
are largely made up of assumptions, and inferences, rather than facts, truths and evidence.
The Ego manifests as the little voice in our head that constantly speaks to us. It is self-interested, self-centred, survival orientated, and while it has good intentions for us, it often runs amok, with its story telling embellishments and warnings of doom. It wants to avoid pain and desires pleasure. It is what possesses us and fools us into thinking it is us because it goes unobserved most of the time. The Ego is a useful slave, but a destructive master, and it is out of control in most of us.
The Ego is fearful because it sees itself as an isolated fragment, fleeting in existence as all forms are, rather than seeing itself as the formless, which allows all form to be, in the same way as space separates the planets and without which they would not exist.
Note; I’m referring to the Ego as a separate entity (a false sense of self), because it is like a possessing force, that controls your actions, and by referring to it as such, helps to clarify what it is doing and how that affects the real you that is hidden behind the EGO. Of course the Ego is not separate from you but rather the part of your mind that is under the control of THOUGHT.
The Egos constant struggle with fear leads to greed (grabbing to get share, before someone else takes it), and this keeps the Ego looking to attain more, thinking having more will make it more. As part of this process it tricks us into believing the more “stuff” we possess, the more we will be. To this end it makes its sense-of-self-worth part of the things it attaches to. It attaches to possessions, people, ideas, thoughts, affiliations, to causes. These things become part of our false-sense-of-self, part of the Ego, part of who we think we are.
Identifying with stuff in such a way is deeply problematic emotionally, because when our false sense of self (anything we are attached to) is threatened we react in the same way as we would if we were personally under threat. If someone steals one or more of our possessions, we feel violated, if someone insults our favourite sports team we feel insulted personally, especially if we are deeply attached to these things. This is our false sense of self (Ego) in action. Our Ego identifies with anything we assign a “my”, “mine”, “me” or “our” to.
The Equation of Emotion
There is a simple formula that explains why we experience, negative (and positive) emotions. It’s called the “Equation of Emotion” otherwise referred to as the pain gap, and looks like the following….
Expectations/Preferences (EP) compared to Reality as Perceive (RP) = Emotional Reaction (ER)
It’s a formula highlighted by Sean Webb over at spirituality.com. I would highly recommend watching some of Sean’s Youtube Videos detailing the subject in great detail.
Effectively the formula says if our reality, as we perceive it, doesn’t match up with our expectation or preference for that situation, we will feel negative emotion, if it does, we’ll feel a positive emotion. The formula relates to “attachments” that we identify with, which become part of our false sense of self (see earlier for more about that). If the attachment is strong we will feel greater emotion, if the attachment is at greater risk of being devalued in some way, we will feel greater emotion.
Which emotion is triggered depends on where the perceived source of the devaluation originates from. For instance if someone who is not on your attachment map calls you an “idiot”, you will likely feel ANGER. If your mum, who is on your attachment map, calls you an “idiot”, you’re likely to feel SAD.
If your favourite sports team is playing and loses, you will feel SADNESS that they’ve lost, and you will experience even greater SADNESS if you are a fanatical supporter of that team. If they are beaten by a team you hate with a passion, you’re likely to feel ANGER towards the team that beat you, as well as the SADNESS at the fact they lost. So this explains why we can experience multiple emotions as a result of one event.
If you’re a business owner, what you are in fact doing, is using your solution to plug the “pain gap”, so that your customers expectations/preferences are being met, making them feel satisfied.
For a more detailed explanation about the Equation of Emotions check out Sean’s videos, there are loads of explanations about which emotions are triggered, and when, it’s a real eye opener. Alternatively I have recently added a more detailed explanation here.
Lost in the past and future
The Ego lives in psychological time. It needs the past for its “identity” and the future for a “chance for more”. The present moment becomes a means-to-an-end, with no intrinsic value of its own. We are always looking to the future, for something that will make us happy. For instance, many people live for the weekends and count down the weekdays until it arrives, literally wishing their lives away.
Labelling, judging, defining and conceptualising
The Ego is quick to label the world around it. It tries to define and conceptualise everything so that it can psychologically place it in the right pigeon hole, in an attempt to understand it and navigate it more successfully. The Ego thinks this will allow it to navigate its way through life without putting us in danger. This gross reductionism of reality, makes the world and everything in it, flat and two dimensional. We lose the sense of wonder and marvel at the simple things in life.
We react negatively to things and people that don’t align with our beliefs and values, which are the conditioned structure behind our thoughts. We stop just accepting, and instead, start judging and interpreting events and other peoples’ behaviour, often feeling aggrieved by things we ourselves are guilty of. We mistake other peoples Ego to be their identity, and this strengthens the Ego in us, further obscuring the spiritual being within us. Check out this Zen parable about judging and labeling, as well as The Great Way.
Ego’s need for separation
When possessed by the Ego, we see ourselves as separate from other people, from nature, from the world. For there to be a conceptualised “I” there needs to be a conceptualised “other”. For you to be successful at something, others have to be disadvantaged in some way. We enter the realms of the competitive mind. The Ego tries to strengthen its “self worth” by making “others” less significant. The Ego divides, excludes and pursues its own self-interest. Division of possessions and territory, division of ideas, and division of people ultimately leads to conflict and war. In the case of war there is no greater “other” than your Enemy.
Ego tries to avoid pain and attain pleasure
The Ego has a “competitive” drive because it often believes in scarcity. It believes resources are limited and it doesn’t want to miss out.
Just think about it for a moment, if you thought resources were unlimited and abundant would you be so possessive or competitive in grabbing your share? I doubt it.
To do this the Ego IDENTIFIES with things close to it and SEPARATES from things it perceives as more distant.
- When it identifies it brings them into its sense-of-self to build itself up more. “We” are bigger than “I” – these become attachments. Attachments lift the “SELF” higher through identification and use of words like….”Mine”, “my”, and “we”
- It thinks as much as it can. Noisy thoughts looking for ideas to lift itself, to get more, and to escape pain.
- Uses promise of future to increase hope, it says to itself “You can be more, soon”.
- It uses past memories of failure to stop you losing again, to protect what you have, to not be embarrassed again.
When it SEPARATES it tries to either rise above “others” or lower “others” below us
- Complaining and blaming lowers the “other” and raises the self
- Knocking others down, decrying their achievements lowers the “other”.
- Using words like “they”, “them”, “him”, or “her” help to forge separation.
The problem for many is they are lost in the world. Lost in the Ego. They have sold their soul to the devil (Ego) and this keeps them from BEING. Dis-identification with the Ego is key to finding a joyful life and feeling more spiritually aligned.
Ego is a survival mechanism
The Ego is driven by the “Desire for pleasure and need to avoid pain” actually what I should say is the Ego is driven by the need to move away from pain (avoiding pain is the priority) towards pleasure (this is done to get even further away from pain). It is a continuum between pain and pleasure driven predominantly by the need to avoid pain. The more we HAVE, the more we believe we ARE, we think by being more, we are further away from having and thus being nothing. But we also realise the more we have the more we have to lose. We can’t win using this train of thought. The Ego never thinks it is enough and this causes much pain and suffering in individuals.
Escaping the Ego
If I could sum up the way to escape the Ego into one sentence, it would be:
“Allow CONSCIOUSNESS into this moment, by rising above compulsive thought, through Awareness and Presence”.
Let’s look at CONSCIOUSNESS in a little more detail, and go over the points discussed about the Ego (above), dealing with each in turn.
Bring consciousness into this moment
“Consciousness”, may also be described as “space”, or “stillness”, it is a pathway that allows the universe to come into this world, through us. When you are truly conscious, you are aligned with the universe, you feel a great sense of aliveness. The simplest of things is full of vibrancy. By allowing consciousness into the moment, you become fully alert, absorbing the fullness of life through all of your senses. You don’t try to explain, or label what you perceive, instead you just allow it to be, through the fullness of your attention.
Stop living in the past and wishing for the future
Get out of the habit of living past failures or triumphs and wishing for tomorrow to come as soon as possible, stop living in psychological time. As Eckhart Tolle says in his book “The Power of Now” there is in fact only “this moment” that exists and that we ever interact with, we live our lives through the perpetual “present moment”.
We can’t actually alter the past, we can only remember it through thought, but thinking about it doesn’t change anything that has already happened, we can relive it through “thought” time and again, but this is nothing more than a form of storytelling and is ultimately pointless. Yesterday can’t affect today, other than through thought, and identification with thought is the Ego.
With regards to future, we can’t touch the future until it actually becomes “this moment”, all the future ever is, is a thought, and again thought is of the Ego. True we can set goals and have a plan of action, but it is in the eternal “now” that progress is made.
Observe Thought – rise above it
When we say “Rising above compulsive thought”, we are pointing to the fact that you first have to recognise you are stuck in compulsive thought. Without this recognition, you take the compulsive thought to be you. You don’t recognise there to be anything wrong with your state. However, If you notice you have a voice in your head, this recognition is in fact awareness that you are not the voice, but the observer of the voice. Awareness in itself is enough to lift you out of the Ego. Awakening is the separation of “thought” and “awareness”.
Become the observer of the voice in your head. Watch what it is telling you. Observe how this inner voice guides your actions and reactions. Be completely present in the moment and observe your thoughts. Watch them and understand these thoughts are the Ego in its never ending drive to escape pain and desire for more, caught in a cycle of fear and greed.
If you train your inner voice to replace the use of “me” or “I” with “THE ME” you will automatically lift your awareness out of the Ego. For instance, if you were to say something like “I’m so angry you forgot my birthday”, compared to “THE ME is so angry you forgot my birthday”, see how that immediately interrupts your pattern of identifying with the thought and emotion of anger. Try this any time you feel any negative emotion.
Stop Attaching to stuff
Identification is the route to all negative emotion. When you identify to an idea, a mental position, you invest a sense of self in that idea. When that idea is challenged or attacked, you take it as if it were an attack on your very person. You react with anger, even violence if you feel threatened enough and if your attachment is strong enough.
Attachments vary in their degree of strength. You naturally feel more attached to say, your children, than you would to a distant relative who you maybe, haven’t seen in the last 20 years. Some people have stronger attachments to say, sports teams, than do others who, maybe are more of a casual observer. Hence some supporters can be seen genuinely upset, even crying when their favourite team is knocked out of a cup, while others don’t react at all, or in the case of a rival supporter, might even be ecstatic with the result.
Understanding that all identification and attachments are doomed to result in negative emotion and suffering, simply because all attachments are “form”. Form includes anything in the physical and thought realms. It is everything you perceive through your senses and includes thoughts, ideas and mental positions, as well as people,relationships and possessions. Form is impermanent and transient by its very nature, and subject to continual change. Attaching to “form”, guarantees you pain and suffering sometime in the future, as long as you resist its natural tendency to change over time.
This doesn’t mean that you can’t enjoy form, and play with form, and appreciate form, just that you shouldn’t attach to it in the misguided assumption that it will always be there, unchanged.
Let go of any resistance you have to “change”, which will inevitably come about with all FORM. Don’t invest FORM with a deep sense of self. When you say “my”, “mine”, or “our”, you are attaching mentally to something. Nothing is strictly your possession, you are only using it, or spending time with it. There is nothing in this world that you will take with you when death comes to call, not even your body. Whatever you own will degrade or go to someone else to use until they themselves pass on. Check out this Safi story that teaches about not making rigid attachments, it’s called “This too will pass”
Stop seeing yourself as separate
When you attach to things, you automatically cause separation. If something is “mine”, it’s not someone else’s. The division begins. The Ego loves to have a conceptualised “I” and a conceptualised “other”. Through separation it is able to BE more, sometimes by making the “other” less through name calling or criticising, and sometimes by having more, thus being more than the “other”. But in reality you and life are one, you are life. When you become spiritually aligned you see your connection with the whole and to everything else that exists within it, because nothing acts in isolation, everything is inter-connected to everything else. To unpick one event you would have to go back to the beginning of time. “The Butterfly Effect” highlights the inter-connectedness of all things.
Alan Watt’s in “The Book“, attempts to discredit the firmly held belief systems that tell us we are isolated, individual beings, confined to the limits of our skin, separate from the world around us and from one another. He discusses the game of Black and White, which has become the game of black versus white or more usually, white versus black, where “white must win” and is no longer a game, but rather a fight, haunted by a sense of chronic frustration, because we are doing something as crazy as trying to keep the mountains and get red of the valley. This perspective misses the point that black and white are indeed polar opposites of the same thing, as with the game of up/down, on/off, solid/space, and each/all, good/evil, form/formless, cause/effect.
Our fragmented view of the world comes from a having a limited perspective, and inability to appreciate the bigger picture. If we are able to shift perspective for a moment, and be open the possibility of the way things may actually be rather than how they appear to be from a purely black versus white perspective.
We are all one, with each other and with all that is. We are all points of consciousness, existing through the perpetual present moment. Beyond the prison of psychological time; need for the past for a sense of identity and the future for salvation.
“My soul is not contained within the limits of my body; my body is contained within the limitlessness of my soul” – Jim Carrey
Our true “self” can be found above the constraints and noise of compulsive THINKING that keeps telling us, we are not enough. Bringing space, stillness and formless into the world of form. Quieten the thinker and let the light of consciousness shine through. This is who we are, who you are, the real you.
You don’t need to keep seeking, the world will not give you what you want. What you want cannot be found in “doing” or through “thought”, all that will happen is you will lose yourself in doing and lose yourself in thought.
All that you need is within you. You can practice grounding yourself in the present moment, by using the breath to focus the mind away from compulsive thought. With practice through meditation, thoughts will quieten in time, and peace will prevail. This peace is the pathway to true self.
Allow consciousness into the present moment, through awareness and presence. Be one with this moment. Enjoy it fully. Use all your senses to absorb life as it unfolds. Bring back a sense of wonder to the simplest things that you come across or do, because they are truly wonderful. Replace Expectations with appreciation, accept instead of expect.
Bring BEING into DOING. Whatever you do in your life, should have a sense of BEING involved in it, a part of you that is aware that any DOING is of the Ego. BEING is of primary importance, DOING is secondary. Sure we have to live our lives through “form”, we have to interact with the world around us, but when you are spiritually aligned you are above emotional reactions, above the petty needs and wants of the Ego. The world around you loses it seriousness, and can be enjoyed more fully. Bring acceptance, joy and enthusiasm to your activities and by doing so, you align yourself with your true spiritual self. Eckhart Tolle said it best when he said “You don’t get joy from what you do, joy flows into what you do”. Check more Eckhart Tolle quotes here.
Live a more enlightened life through:
- Non-attachment. Identifying with and attaching to form, leads to a fear of loss, you just ain’t going to ever overcome. See “Is that so.”
- Non-Judgement. Quit labelling and judging, after all these are based on your perspective, beliefs and values taken from experience, which aren’t truths, but opinions. Judging and labelling reduces your world to a narrow perspective, and stops you appreciating a wider viewpoint. You might think it’s helping you, but it isn’t. See “Maybe.”
- Non-Resistance. Freeing yourself from resistance is about surrendering to “WHAT IS”, accepting it psychologically. Sure, work your way out of unpleasant situations, but accept the facts as they are now and take a positive approach to the future. See “This too will pass.”
“The day you decide that you are more interested in being aware of your thoughts than you are in the thoughts themselves – that is the day you will find your way out.” – Michael Singer
“True abundance isn’t based on our net-worth, it’s based on our self-worth.” – Gabrielle Bernstein
“When we believe in our thoughts, when we tell ourselves a story, we suffer. “My husband doesn’t respect me.” “I should be thinner.” Those are stories. When there’s no story, there’s no suffering.” – Byron Katie
“Most people do not see their beliefs. Instead, their beliefs tell them what to see. This is the simple difference between clarity and confusion.” – Matt Kahn
“Remember: despite how open, peaceful and loving you attempt to be, people can only meet you as deeply as they’ve met themselves.” – Matt Kahn
“Knock, And he’ll open the door, vanish, And he’ll make you shine like the sun, Fall, And He’ll raise you to the heavens, Become nothing, And He’ll turn you into everything.”- Rumi
“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.”- Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
“Criticism of others is thus an oblique form of self-commendation. We think we make the picture hang straight on our wall by telling our neighbors that all his pictures are crooked.” – Fulton J. Sheen, Seven Words of Jesus and Mary: Lessons from Cana and Calvary
“To escape fear, you have to go through it, not around.- Richie Norton, Résumés Are Dead and What to Do About It
“Folks, it’s time to evolve. That’s why we’re troubled. You know why our institutions are failing us, the church, the state, everything’s failing? It’s because, they’re no longer relevant. We’re supposed to keep evolving. Evolution did not end with us growing opposable thumbs. You do know that, right?” – Bill Hicks
“I am convinced that the jealous, the angry, the bitter and the egotistical are the first to race to the top of mountains. A confident person enjoys the journey, the people they meet along the way and sees life not as a competition. They reach the summit last because they know God isn’t at the top waiting for them. He is down below helping his followers to understand that the view is glorious where ever you stand.” – Shannon L. Alder
“I have known friendship love, parental love, romantic love, family love and unrequited love in my life time, but the only love that made a difference was self love. You don’t need confirmation from the world or another person that you matter. You simply do matter. When you finally believe that truth and live it then you can do amazing things with your life!” – Shannon L. Alder
“There’s always a moment that separates the past from the future, and that moment is now.” – Aniekee Tochukwu
“Accepting every situation gives you freedom. Expecting situations to be different causes problems.”
“Striving, wanting, attaching are for the Ego, Being is for the Spirit.”
The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.” – Marcus Aurelius
“The quality of life depends on the quality of your thoughts.”
“Stay away from negative people. They have a problem for every solution.”
Be motivated by the desire to achieve, not the desire to beat others.”
“Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.” – George Bernard Shaw
“Don’t talk unless you can improve the silence.” – Jorge Luis Borges
“You will learn a lot about yourself if you stretch in the direction of goodness, of bigness, of kindness, of forgiveness, of emotional bravery. Be a warrior for love.” – Cheryl Strayed
“We often add to our pain and suffering by being overly sensitive, over-reacting to minor things and sometimes taking things too personally.” – The Dalai Lama
“To be kind is more important than to be right. Many times what people need is not a brilliant mind that speaks but a special heart that listens.” – Unknown Author
“Today . . . spend more time with people who bring out the best in you, not the stress in you.” – Unknown Author
“You can’t control everything. Sometimes you just need to relax and have faith that things will work out. Let go a little and just let life happen.” – Kody Keplinger
“Whatever relationships you have attracted in your life at this moment, are precisely the ones you need in your life at this moment. There is a hidden meaning behind all events, and this hidden meaning is serving your own evolution.” – Deepak Chopra
“Never look down on anybody unless you’re helping them up.” – Jesse Jackson
“The quieter you become, the more you can hear.” – Ram Dass
“It can be hard to forgive and let go, but it’s important to remember that harboring the resentment and holding a grudge can hurt you even more. The word ‘forgive’ really means to give something up for yourself, not for them.” – Jack Canfield
“The words of the tongue should have three gatekeepers: Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?” – Arab proverb
“When you realize you’ve made a mistake, make amends immediately. It’s easier to eat crow while it’s still warm.” – Dan Heist
“You have to accept the fact that some people are never going to be for you. Treat them with respect, but you don’t need their approval to fulfill your destiny.” -Joel Osteen
“When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears.” – Anthony Robbins
“Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.” – Unknown Author
“Happiness depends on what you can give, not on what you can get.” – Swami Chinmayananda Saraswati
“Let go of the people who dull your shine, poison your spirit and bring you drama. Cancel your subscription to their issues.” – Steve Maraboli
“The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t being said. The art of reading between the lines is a lifelong quest of the wise.” – Shannon L. Alder
“You can’t see it now, but that thing you didn’t get will someday be the best thing you never had. Let it go. Better is coming.” – Mandy Hale
“There are always flowers for those who want to see them.” – Henri Matisse
“Don’t dwell on what went wrong. Instead, focus on what to do next. Spend your energies on moving forward toward finding the answer.” – Denis Waitley
“There are some people who always seem angry and continuously look for conflict. Walk away from these people. The battle they’re fighting isn’t with you, it’s with themselves.” – Rashida Rowe
“Worry is a useless mulling over of things we cannot change.” – Peace Pilgrim
“We can always choose to perceive things differently. We can focus on what’s wrong in our life, or we can focus on what’s right.” – Marianne Williamson
“Life is 10 percent what happens to you and 90 percent how you respond to it.” – Lou Holtz
“Sometimes letting go is an act of far greater power than defending or holding on.” – Eckhart Tolle
“Anger is a feeling that makes your mouth work faster than your mind.” -Evan Esar
“Conflict cannot survive without your participation.” – Wayne Dyer
“There are two ways of meeting difficulties: You alter the difficulties or you alter yourself meeting them.” -Phyllis Bottome
“To solve our most difficult problems, we must radically change our thinking.” -Stephen Covey
“Take a deep breath. Get present in the moment and ask yourself what is important this very second.” – Greg McKeown
“Every person in this life has something to teach me — and as soon as I accept that, I open myself to truly listening.” – Catherine Doucette
“Conflict is the beginning of consciousness.” – M. Esther Harding
“Who lives happily does his Creator’s will.” – Ba’al Shem Tov
“Worrying is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere.”
“Wherever you are, be there.” —Jim Rohn
“Learn to express, not impress.” —Jim Rohn
“What you see is who you’ll be!” — Denis Waitley
“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.”
“It’s not information you need its transformation.”
“We live in illusion and the appearance of things. There is a reality, we are that reality. When you understand this, you will see “you” are nothing. And, being nothing, you are everything.” – Kalu Rinpoche
“Stop looking outside for scraps of pleasure or fulfilment, for validation, security or love – you have a treasure with that is infinitely greater than anything that the world can offer.” – Eckhart Tolle
“The ultimate truth of who you are is not I am this or I am that, but I AM.” – Eckhart Tolle
“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” – Joseph Campbell
You are not “in the now”; you are the now. That is your essential identity – the only thing that never changes,. Life is always now. Now is consciousness, and consciousness is who you are. That’s the Equation.” – Eckhart Tolle
“Be kind to unkind people, they need it most.”
“Humility is not thinking less of yourself but thinking of yourself less.”
“We are falling with nothing to hold on to, the good news is there is no ground to hit.”
“The things you really need are few and easy to come by; but the things you can imagine you need are infinite, and you will never be satisfied. – Epicurus
“We suffer more often in imagination than in reality.” – Seneca
“If you are unable to find the truth right where you are, where else do you expect to find it?” – Dogen
“Make no mistake about it – enlightenment is a destructive process. It has nothing to do with becoming better or being happier. Enlightenment is the crumbling away of untruth. It’s seeing through the facade of pretence. It’s the complete eradication of everything we imagined to be true.” – Adyashanti
“If I follow the trail of your stress, it will take me to your deepest fears,” he says. “And I always believe that life is the dance between what you desire most and what you fear most.” – Tony Robbins
“It’s learning how to train yourself with a new set of habits to look at it, to be entertained by the mind and know that you’re more than your mind,” – Tony Robbins
“The body benefits from movement, and the mind benefits from stillness.” Sakyong Mipham
“Don’t let the darkness from your past block the light of joy in your present. What happened is done. Stop giving time to things which no longer exist, when there is so much joy to be found here and now.” – Karen Salmansohn
“Those who know don’t talk. Those who talk don’t know. Close your mouth, block off your senses, blunt your sharpness, untie your knots, soften your glare, settle your dust. This is the primal identity. Be like the Tao. It can’t be approached or withdrawn from, benefited or harmed, honored or brought into disgrace. It gives itself up continually. That is why it endures.”― Lao Tzu
“I am not what you think I am. You are what you think I am.”
“When you learn to accept instead of expect, you will have fewer disappointments.”
“If there is unhappiness, observe it. If there is happiness, observe it. In unhappiness don’t become identified with unhappiness. In happiness, don’t become identified with happiness. Let both come, let both go. Night has come, observe it. Day has come, observe it. At night, don’t think you become night. In day, don’t think you have become the day.”
“Problems that remain persistently insoluble should always be suspected as questions asked in the wrong way.”
“Love is not about finding the right person, but about being the right person. “
A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle
Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth will be a cornerstone for personal spirituality and self-improvement for years to come, leading readers to a new levels of consciousness and inner peace. Taking off from the introspective work The Power of Now, which is a number one bestseller and has sold millions of copies worldwide, Tolle provides the spiritual framework for people to move beyond themselves in order to make this world a better, more spiritually evolved place to live. Shattering modern ideas of ego and entitlement, self and society, Tolle lifts the veil of fear that has hung over humanity during this new millennium, and shines an illuminating light that leads to happiness and health that every reader can follow.
When in your car, you waste a lot of time listening to the same songs, over and over again. Instead listen to audio books, such as those from Audible. You’ll learn a great deal and get smarter. You can do this while working out, or waiting for an appointment. I’ve included a link for the audio version of the book above.
Alternatively sit quietly and be fully in the moment without thought. Either way you’re using your time wisely.
The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
Eckhart Tolle’s book describes the experience of heightened consciousness that radically transformed his life – and shows how by living in the moment we can also reach a higher state of being where we can find joy and peace and where problems do not exist.