Stop Letting Your Instinct Control You

Get Results: self awareness otherwise you'll struggle against yourself
Get Results: self awareness otherwise you’ll struggle against yourself

Who or what is in control of you

If you find yourself defending a Politician who is under verbal attack, let’s say its Jeremy Corbyn receiving stick from someone in a group your part of, or you feel the compulsion to defend or stick up for him, it’s because either..

#1 – You see the attack as a form of bullying that is disagreeable to your values of what is right and wrong behaviour  or

#2 – You believe their opinion is inaccurate or unfounded or

#3 – You’ve psychologically invested a sense-of- yourself in that Politician or a cause they represent. You may feel you are personally being attacked through them, or at least what that Politician stands for, maybe their values, principles, cause or whatever it is you are attached to, that they represent in your perception. In the example of Jeremy Corbyn, you might share the same Political, Socialist stance or views.

The emotional response you feel, the compulsion to want to defend him, your physiological and psychological reactions, originate from a primitive part of your mind, what Spirituality calls “the Ego”, others may call “Instinct”, or survival instinct.

It’s the emotional part of your mind that needs to defend itself from a perceived devaluation in its sense of self.

Sense of self explained

Your “Sense of self” includes anything you’re psychologically attached to. If you refer to people, things, ideas, concepts using.. “my”, “mine”, “I have”, “I am”

like…

“it’s MY car”, or “that car is MINE”

“MY opinion” or “this opinion is MINE”

“MY belief” or “this belief is MINE”

“MY friend” or “this friend is MINE”

“I AM a Socialist” or “I HAVE Socialist values”

Or even “WE ARE [Socialist]”, “WE HAVE [Socialist values]”, “OUR opinion/car/family” etc

For example if you hear a car has been stolen, it’s unlikely to bother you but if your  car is stolen, a car you  describe as “my car”, then you’re likely going to have an emotional response.

Well the same is true if the thing you’re attached to is tangible like a car, a person, or a possession or intangible like ideas, thoughts, beliefs, values, opinions, religious or political stances or views.

The reason you attach to such things, is because your instinct wrongly believes the more you have the more you are. You have a greater sense of self by having more attachments connect to you.

Taking control back

So what can you do about it, well if you don’t want to do anything about it and you’re happy to go along with the INSTINCTIVE part of your brain, and your emotions, be my guest.

But is you don’t want to be a slave to your instincts and emotions, understand one important thing, there is another part of your mind that can and should always take control.

If your instinct is the child-like reactionary part of your mind, the Intellect; the conscious thinking mind is the grown up part.

This part of your mind is where rational decision making resides. It’s the part that of your mind that says eating that piece of cake is not a good idea, and dismisses your instinct is craving for a slice.

It’s the part of your mind that says, stop taking drugs they are going to kill you, when your instinct is craving another fix.

It’s the part of your mind that says, stop investing a sense of yourself in Political ideologies and the people that represent them and start thinking rationally about such matters, when your instinct is craving the attachment.