Why Did You Fail To Achieve Your Goal?

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Get Results: Why did you fail?

So why is it you aren’t getting results? Why did something not work out for you? Why did you fail to achieve a goal?

Is it because you aren’t capable? You haven’t got the necessary skills to be effective? You just can’t figure out what went wrong,? Well if you said yes to any of these questions, you might be tempted to throw your hands in the air, give it up as a fail, and move onto something else.

Stay stuck

The trouble with this approach is, you will inevitably reach this point again, maybe not in relation to what you have done this time, but for sure, you will for something else, and what will you do then, give up and move onto something else and so it continues. You’re hitting the outer barrier of your capability and failing to push past it. If you can’t break through this barrier you’ll have to be content with your present situation. Be grateful for what you have, and settle for that, and many people do just that, they settle.

Lack of resources

When asked why they failed to achieve something, or why they did not achieve their goal, people often say that they didn’t know enough, didn’t have the knowledge, know-how, didn’t have enough time, money, or they didn’t get the right support from colleagues, family members or friends. What they mean by this is they didn’t have the resources. Time, money, knowledge, motivation, and support are all resources.

RESOURCEFULNESS is what counts

The truth is, it’s not a lack of resources that’s the problem, although these may indeed be lacking, but it’s resourcefulness which is missing, and this is the defining factor of failure. Resourcefulness comes from being in touch with your emotions. It’s emotions that drive you to take action.

We must tap into our passions and desires, find inspiration to pursue a cause bigger than us, we must desire the end goal enough to be driven forward, and have enough grit and determination to push through any obstacle that we will inevitable encounter.

Find MEANING in what you do

How do we do this? Well for a start we must make our actions meaningful by aligning them to a meaningful goal. Each action should contribute to the acquisition of that goal, steady but sure.  Aim for a goal that is deeply desired, with great passion. A goal that challenges us, and is specific enough that we can clearly define it to ourselves.

Seek MASTERY

We must understand and believe that ability is not fixed or gifted, but comes from practice, repetition and the pursuit of excellence. Having a growth mindset will motivate progress, and help banish thoughts of having limitations. Be a master of what you know and an apprentice of what you don’t. Seek functional excellence in your chosen pursuit, and know that the only limitations we have are those we impose on ourselves or allow others to talk us into believing.

Be Creative

Being creative is about remaining open minded, and having the ability to stand back and see things from a different perspective, making the most of your resources (strengths, abilities, knowledge, tools, networks), You need to be able to look at your situation from a variety of angles and perspectives and then make use of what you have at your disposal to help resolve your problem. Look for ways to apply unrelated ways of doing things to your situation. Many innovative new products or services have made use of this approach, rather than trying to come up with something completely new. Why try to reinvent the wheel, when you can build on the work done by others.

Be Proactive

Take responsibility, if you try to blame others, you relinquish your power to take the initiative. Be on the front foot, rather than waiting for things to drop in your lap or come to you.

Be Connected

Being connected to information and people is a must. If you have the ability to acquire tools, and techniques and find, organise and more importantly use information effectively, you increase your ability to solve problems outside your current span of knowledge and capabilities.

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Get Results: wisdom

If you are able to utilise other peoples’ resources, people like family, friends, colleagues, and/or associates, you increase your resourcefulness exponentially. It’s often the shortest and easiest path to getting a positive conclusion, but is a skill that needs to be developed and nurtured over time.

Start NOW!

To get better results, be more resourceful, by being determined to acquire the necessary resources to get the job done, no matter what, find a way. Find resources that will improve your KNOWLEDGE, MOTIVATION and PRODUCTIVITY. Where will you find these? Well check out our ULTIMATE RESOURCE GUIDES currently covering Weight loss, Business and Marketing, they’re a great place to begin.

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Get Results: Ultimate Marketing Guide
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Get Results: Ultimate Weight Loss Guide
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Get Results: Ultimate Business Guide

Is Fear holding you back?

 

Get Results: Is Fear holding you back
Get Results: Is Fear holding you back

Fear results from a perceived devaluation of self, which also includes anything we’re attached to, such as ideas, beliefs, people, memories, our body’s, even our favourite football team etc. Fear is an evolutionary emotion that triggers our fight or flight response to keep our “self” alive (preserve life).

Although we can still face life threatening situations, they are less common than they were when we fighting sabre tooth tigers.

Because we absorb things we value into our “sense of self”, we can feel the same fear that we experience when our life may actually be threatened, in none life threatening situations, such as talking in public, and watching our favourite team participating in a penalty shoot out.

In life, fear can hold us back from pursuing our Goals by fooling us into thinking, we won’t be good enough, or we’ll be happier staying where we are.

In business, fear of taking action can be a result of a perceived devaluation of our sense of self:
• Failing, and not being as capable as we would like to believe we are (feel bad due devalued “sense of self”)
• Not being able to cope with the demands of our success (devaluation of “control” due to loss of control, “harmony” and devaluation to “family life”)
• Having to spend all our time working (devaluation of “family” and “leisure time”)
• Fear of the unknown (possible devaluation of “harmony” or “comfort zone”)

Manage FEAR and conflicts by identifying them, acknowledging and working through them to resolution. If your goal doesn’t accommodate what you fear you will lose in achieving it, you will remain torn.

There is always a way to achieving a goal and resolving any fears you may have in the acquisition of that goal, which are, after all, only real in your mind.

Jim Carey said it best

“There is a huge difference between a dog that is going to eat you in your mind and an actual dog that is GOING TO EAT YOU”.

Check out iamspirituality.com for more information about how your emotions work, and listen to Jim Carey’s speech below for some inspiration in following your goals. Choose Love over Fear.

If you would like to read more articles focused on FEAR, click here.

For more about MOTIVATION.

Pedometer Apps – Measuring Your Fitness Progress

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Get Results: Pedometer screen shot

A great way to monitor your walking or running progress it to use a Pedometer. Even better, use a Pedometer App on your phone so you have it on you all the time. A great FREE solution is the Pedometer Android App by Tayutau which can be found on Google play here.

You can easily share screenshots like the one above on social media with a couple of clicks.

A useful added feature is the ability to look at daily, weekly and monthly charts.

Having the Pedometer App running in the background, will drain your battery quicker than normal, but is worth having an insight into how many steps you actually take in a day.

 

Force Yourself to Take Action

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Check out the video above, delivered by Mel Robbins about forcing yourself to take action.

Video summary:

100 million people living in America say they are dissatisfied with their lives, that’s an awful lot of dissatisfaction. What do they and you want? It doesn’t have to sound good to other people, just be honest with yourself. If you want to lose man boobs to be able to attract a mate, then that’s fine, as long as it means something to you. Pick something.

How you get what you want? Well it’s really simple but not easy.

We live in unprecedented times, a world of information at our fingertips, we have it in the form of books (electronic and paper versions), or search engines like Google and Bing, which are easily accessible from our mobile phones and computers. There are literally thousands of blogs or websites giving you step by step instructions about how to do just about anything that’s ever been done before. So why aren’t you getting what you want? It comes down to one word. a small four latter word that is the route of your problems. The word is “Fine”. People ask you “How are you doing?” you reply, “I’m fine!”. Really, are you fine? Fine says you don’t have to do anything about it, you’re okay where you are. The result is you stay in your comfort zone. You don’t push yourself, you stay put.

Experts have calculated the odds of your very existence, taking into account all the wars and disasters that have ever happened, as being 1 in 400 trillion. Wow those odds are amazingly long, you are amazing just for being here. You are full of great ideas and impulses, but when you have one you do nothing about it. You press the snooze button, because your comfortable where you are. Let’s be real, any area of your life that you want to change, you will never feel like it when it comes to actually taking action, you’ll always prefer to procrastinate.

Activation energy as it’s been labelled by science, is required to get you to do anything new, anything outside your normal routine. Try this exercise tomorrow, set your alarm 30 minutes earlier and get up and start your day. You will come face to face with the physical force required to change behaviour. Getting out of a warm bed into a cold room requires much the same effort as taking exercise, dieting, or whatever else you want to do/achieve that’s new.

Your parents used to make you do the stuff you didn’t feel like doing, as adults it’s our own responsibility to make us do the things we don’t feel like doing, but you have to force yourself, it’s simple but not easy.

You brain is split into two halves, one side is autopilot and the other is the emergency brake. Everything outside our normal routine, anything new, usually results in the tendency to pull the emergency break and move back into autopilot (normal routine).

You’re bored because of routine and habit and doing the same things over and over again in autopilot. Your body is wired to send you signals, for instance if you need food, your brain tells you you’re hungry, if you need sex your brain tells you you’re horny. When you’re bored or dissatisfied, your brain is telling you one of your most basic needs isn’t being met, your need for exploration and growth.

Force yourself out of your head and into the world, out of your comfort zone. If you’re in your head you’re behind enemy lines. You will never feel like taking action. Those first 3 seconds you get out of bed, blow big time, but once you’re up it’s okay. Get outside, that’s where the magic is, where the 1 in 400 million exist. Act within 5 seconds to marry action with the idea/impulse, otherwise your emergency brake gets pulled and you do nothing. Practice the 5 second rule by acting within 5 seconds of the idea/impulse and see what changes happen.

Getting Results: The role MOTIVATION has to play in Success

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Get Results: Motivation

Motivation is probably the single biggest area of consideration when looking to get results, to become a success,  get things done, or make things happen. Why is that you may ask? Well under the umbrella of motivation come things like fear, internal conflict, inaction and plain laziness, not to mention how we are impacted by the people around us, and their effect on our motivation levels.

It really can be a minefield or mindfield as l prefer to call it. Because most, if not all motivation is in our minds. It comes to us via our inner dialogue. It’s partly due to our social conditioning, and our personal history.

Motivation has a number of components ranging from being emotionally moved enough to take action, to overcome fears that hold us in imagined constraints.

Although there is much more to it than simply using words to find inspiration, words can help us think more positively and constructively, indeed can raise our spirits and prevent the negativity of our minds from paralysing us from taking action in pursuit of our goals. I’ve including some motivational quotes to help add some positivity to our thought processes. It’s a small but meaningful start to increasing motivation. Please sign up for more in-depth insights into Getting Results here

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Get Results: “Today you’re one step closer to your goal.”
Get Results: “Law of Opposites: There is no such thing as an unprofitable situation.”
Get Results: “Law of Opposites: There is no such thing as an unprofitable situation.”
Get Results: “Sometimes what you are most afraid of doing is the one thing that can set you free.”
Get Results: “Sometimes what you are most afraid of doing is the one thing that can set you free.”
Get Results: “The way you do one thing is how you do all things.”
Get Results: “The way you do one thing is how you do all things.”
Get Results: “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”
Get Results: “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”
Get Results: “FOCUS – Follow One Course Until Successful.”
Get Results: “FOCUS – Follow One Course Until Successful.”
Get Results: “Your strength grows out of your struggles.”
Get Results: “Your strength grows out of your struggles.”
Get Results: “Today: Have I done anything productive or counter-productive towards my goal?”
Get Results: “Today: Have I done anything productive or counter-productive towards my goal?”
Get Results: “To change you life change you daily routine.”
Get Results: “To change you life change you daily routine.”
Get Results: “What you do in this moment shapes all your tomorrows.”
Get Results: “What you do in this moment shapes all your tomorrows.”
Get Results: “Do something today that your future self will thank you for.”
Get Results: “Do something today that your future self will thank you for.”
Get Results: “Action is the key to all success.”
Get Results: “Action is the key to all success.”
Get Results: “I’m getting closer to my goal each day.”
Get Results: “I’m getting closer to my goal each day.”
Get Results: “Don’t think of work as work and play as play, it’s all living.”
Get Results: “Don’t think of work as work and play as play, it’s all living.”
Get Results: “Dreams don’t work unless you do.”
Get Results: “Dreams don’t work unless you do.”
Get Results: “Think less do more.”
Get Results: “Think less do more.”